Allowing Myself

…to feel, to love, to be.

Tag: hair

#30daysofdresses – day 25

Losing steam has meant getting creative.

This black dress is from WetSeal circa 2006. I purchased it in Boston for the end-of-school boozefest.

It’s a party dress, and an almost-skanky one at that. HOWEVER, throw a cardigan over it and voila, instant cute, swishy skirt for modest looking outfit.

Also, excellent hair day.

Dress is WetSeal and so old no one cares. Cardigan is Ann Taylor LOFT.

#30daysofdresses – day 23

This is one of those outfits I love – dress makes me feel all profesh, boots make me feel like a bad-ass. Perfect combo for a full day of work and meetings.

Wish I’d taken a more flattering photo of the whole outfit.

I’m trying to grow my hair out again. I miss it long and I would prefer it to be much closer to my shoulders than it is. :sigh: I’ve just felt pretty whatever about my haircut since July. We’ll see where it goes from here.

Oh, and the dress has pockets. #win

Dress from Ann Taylor LOFT forever ago. Boots are Clarks.

Update: Haircut

Last month, I cut my hair off on a whim.

It was probably a year since my last hair cut and it had gotten so long it felt gross. When I realized it was long enough to donate to Locks of Love, I jumped at the chance. Donating it takes the sadness away from the shock. Like 12 inches shorter…

And I’d like to note here that I am not normally freaking out about my haircuts. My hair is wavy, so it hides shitty cuts well, and it grows so darn fast in the SoCal heat that even a disaster will grow out in a month.

So what’s working?

  • Showers are short and easy. No more struggling to get gobs of shampoo out of my hair.
  • The time it takes me to get ready is much shorter. And no blowdryer needed.
  • When people compliment me on it, it seems random, like they truly want to say “Gah! I love your hair!”
  • Way less choices with how to wear it.
  • Only needing a hat when I go running. None of this braids / hair-ties / ponytails business.
  • Waking up from naps, having it blown out from the wind on a car ride, and it still looking good.
  • The curlier / bigger hair, the better.

What’s not so awesome?

  • Way less choices with how to wear it. It’s either down and curly or falling out of a very small ponytail.
  • I don’t love it. I’m not sure why. I love the idead of it. I enjoy the compliments, but it doesn’t truly feel like me yet.
  • Having it in / on my face and neck so much.
  • Sunburn on my scalp!
  • Thinking that I either need it longer (right past my shoulders) or even shorter (which is kind of a scary thought right now)

It is truly odd, though, to have a haircut where most of the time I think it looks like crap and yet, all of the feedback I’m receiving about it is super positive. Not sure what to make of that, but it’s the biggest observation I’ve made so far.

What about you? Have you ever gone with a radical hairstyle change and felt unsure about it?

And then I cut my hair off…


I’ve needed a haircut for months now. No recollection of the last time I had one… Fall 2013? Maybe even before the wedding? Is that possible!?

While I’m generally organized and put together, things like haircuts and eye-brow waxing tends to fall by the wayside. Plus, my hair is wavy and blond, so it’s not like it needs much to look pretty.

It hit the length of “beyond frustrating” a few weeks ago, when the thought of showering and brushing it out became exhausting. It was then I realized it was probably long enough to donate to Locks of Love. So I started contemplating chopping it off – in an act of summer, of a fresh start, of becoming

The only other time I’ve ever done this was back in 2004 (wow, almost 10 years ago) when my hair was far beyond a good length and a free haircut sounded worth it. Plus, if I was donating it, I wouldn’t feel so sad about it, right?

I wasn’t too upset about it then, and kept it at a shorter length for 1/2 a year or so, through my brother’s graduation, living with my good friend JoAnna in Boston and moving to Nashville for a semester. Those were not great times, but at least my hair was cute.

While the idea occurred to me a week or two ago, it was only this morning that I committed. Luckily, H’s favorite stylist, Jenney, was working and had an open appointment I could hit on my lunch hour. And she was totally into this whole process – Donating is rad.

This is my before and after photo. My long hair is so beautiful, I am sad to see it go, but I know it’ll grow back. Jenney said most people’s hair grows 1/2 inch per month, which means I have about 6 months till my hair is a more usual length, but I can deal with that. Brings me right through the annual September heat-wave of Los Angeles. I even plan on going back in about 10 weeks to get a trim, like a big girl.

so, hello summer. Hope your Monday was good!