Allowing Myself

…to feel, to love, to be.

Tag: letters



I read Alexandra Franzen’s post about being a daymaker. This idea stuck with me as I sat down to write a few thank you notes to speakers at recent events. Then I thought I should send a card to a friend, then a cousin who had a baby, then a connection I’d made at a conference…

All in all, I sent 8 letters that day.

And wouldn’t you know it – within the week – the Universe replied back with random letters and unexpected deliveries.

Life is so grand.

Since the start of the year, I’ve been using the Postagram app to send a postcard to my two grandmothers once a month. I just set a reminder on my calendar, and when it goes off, I open the app, pick a recent photo from my library, write a little note, and click send. I’ve also used this app to send photos of Carter Cash to friends – his pic now graces the walls of many a cubicle.

As you go about your day, can you drop a note to someone? Email is good, but handwritten is even better. Or better yet – be a daymaker to someone.

Recently a woman who manages a venue we host our events at told me her daughter loves Menchies frozen yogurt. Well, my sister happens to work there and has a ton of free swag. I nabbed a few pieces and added a gift card to the branded bag. When I delivered it to this woman before our recent event, she looked at me and said, “I’m going to be a hero tomorrow morning. You made my day. Thank you!”

And I couldn’t help feeling like a bad ass myself. But by making her day, she had made mine.



Therapy After Therapy

Today I went for a little retail therapy (after my traditional therapy appt) at Urbanic Paper Boutique. Definitely spent too much, but it was worth every penny. 5 wonderful people will be getting some sweet mail in the next week, I have two new pens, one new journal, a polka-dot role of washi tape and a sweet smelling candle to burn.

I haven’t spent any money at a paper store since I bought guitar valentine’s back in January (another awful sluggish time), so I don’t feel too bad. Writing encouraging notes to people I love is great self-care too. Give what you’d like to receive.

Sometimes I think my sole (soul) purpose in this life is to reflect people’s light back to them.

It’s important I record these fluctuations so that I can come back and revisit my own guidance for support. I’ve felt great like this before and I’ve felt shitty like I did the past month. Maybe it was Venus in Leo as that planet just shifted yesterday. I kid. Kind of…

Obviously life has ups and downs, but I’m really proud of myself that I worked this knot free on my own. Well, not without help but that I was my own best support, finally, and once that clicked, I felt better.

So, yes, I’m feeling better. Tomorrow’s a very full day with work tasks, meetings and celebrating a friend’s birthday. Hoping the energy release continues.

Did you feel a shift in energy this week? xo

Friendship Serendipity

I have some pretty awesome friends. One in particular is moving to the foreground. Enthusiastic, joyful, smart, communicative and thoughtful, she’s set a new bar for me as a person. Each time she goes through a challenging situation, I am awed by her logical and warm take on it – how she acknowledges her part without ever seeming to give up her power.

In the past year, she’s dealt with many changes and trials. Call it part of the Saturn cycle, but it’s as if her entire life has been taken apart piece-by-piece and she was called to go in and reassemble it. Amazingly, we’ve grown in friendship during this time, which for me, feels like an honor.

I haven’t had a friend like this since college, and certainly no one I feel I can look up to in this way since high school. In fact, this friendship is feeling very close to that nostalgic “best friend” you have in grade school – the one where you just show up for each other, hanging out and talking, and it forms a safety net of a relationship underneath your entire life. It’s awesome.

Wednesday we planned a walk at the beach and then dinner at my place. It was a perfect summer night for it. We talked, we walked, we cooked, we ate. Super relaxing and engaging. She packed up and left, I cleaned the kitchen, H and I put in a movie.

It wasn’t until an hour or more later that I went upstairs to find the bathroom light on, which was odd because we’re a family that general keeps houselights off. And there, on the counter, was a red envelope with my name on it. She had left me the sweetest note and a thank you gift. For what? Apparently being an awesome friend, which is pretty fucking cool considering I thought things were mutual / I was benefitting as much, if not more, from our hang-outs.

But, get this… she gifted me a free year of streaming on which is exactly the most perfect gift anyone could give me. I had no idea how she knew. H said it’s b/c we’re friends, so I must’ve mentioned it. Looking back through emails, he’s right, but I never told her I was unsure about the cost… The whole thing, note + gift, just blew me away. 100% love.

And there it is… exactly what I wanted this week just magically showed up. And if that isn’t a sign from the Universe that to add yoga to my life, I don’t know what is.

Yay serendipity and awesome friends.