“All problems are boring…until they’re your own.”
Red, Orange Is The New Black
For the friend who just moved away from all of us here in LA to pursue a master’s degree.
To the friend whose dealing with his mom being ill, or a grandmother passing away, or a niece being born and not being able to afford a flight to be there in person yet.
To the friends who had a little boy and came home from the hospital without a hitch.
To the friends who spent 2 weeks in the hospital while their baby girl fought off an illness.
To the friend planning her wedding, overwhelmed and frustrated, who is mad at herself it doesn’t feel like an an easier, happier time.
To the friend who lost their pet.
To the friend in the long distance relationship.
To the friend who lost her mom suddenly when she was 19.
To the friend who couldn’t find a job for 5 months despite 10 interviews.
To the friend that thought she found her dream job, and now it’s sucking really bad.
To the friend who accepted a job that is wrong for them because they have to pay the bills.
To the friend who moved to a new country.
To the friend who can’t conceive.
To the friend who found herself pregnant on (happy) accident.
To the friend who can’t quit smoking.
To the friend who can’t stop drinking.
To the friend who did stop drinking… and chooses to continue to not drink one day at a time.
To the friend who tells us they’re OK but we know otherwise.
To the friend who moved in with her boyfriend, and while it’s awesome, she misses having her own space.
To the friend who adopted a pet and is realizing it’s a lot more work then they thought.
To the friend who was was dumped.
To the friend who is home alone all day with her baby boy, loving him and going crazy from boredom.
To the friend who is eating healthy, counting calories and working out and can’t seem to lose “the weight”.
To the friend whose wedding proposal was turned down.
To the friend whose start-up hasn’t gotten funded yet.
To the friend who has no vacation time at work.
To the friend who’s waiting for the ring.
To everyone, all of us, who are scared to share problems and vulnerabilities with anyone because we all try so hard to look like we have our shit together and we think no one wants to hear it. That no one cares.
I’m here to tell you, if just for this one brief moment while you read my words -
I see you. I see you and you’re doing it. You’re kicking ass.
You’re waking up. You’re going through the day. Even if this feels impossible, even if it feels like life is damaged, I am here to say that, we’re all messed up in some way. We’re all carrying some burden and that’s OK. It’s life. We’re all doing the best we can. Really. Even you. I know it. You’re doing the best you can with what you have.
And, as one of my favorite quotes says “we’re all just walking each other home”.
I’m looking out for you. And I’m thankful you’re looking out for me. Happy Monday xo